I have been working with the public as a Medium for over a decade, and in that time I have been exposed to loss on many levels. Very few people get a great death; peacefully surrounded by family. For the most part Death comes in 2 forms-long & painful or sudden & unexpected. There are pro’s and con’s to both. The long & painful death usually involves a great deal of suffering by both the one dying and their family, it however gives ample time to say the things that need saying. The sudden & unexpected death involves less suffering, but gives no time for Goodbyes…
Recently I worked with a family who had experienced sudden death this year. Shortly before the family arrived at my cottage the Spirit in question showed up to remind me to have tissue handy. When I opened the door-I noticed the woman I recognized to be his wife was carrying a baby in a car seat. My heart sank as for a moment my mind ran an emotional scenario of the difficulty of her position. I spent the next 2 hours communicating with the Spirit of the young husband/father and his family. It was one of the most memorable and touching experiences with Spirit I have ever had and I have had a lot. The love between the couple was extraordinary. This I know for as a Medium I not only talk to and see the Dead, but I experience their emotions as they communicate through me. In some ways I feel and understand the love that a Spirit holds for those that come to communicate with them. I knew what it was like to be in love with this women sitting before me & I knew how hard it was leave without goodbye.
There is something special about connecting people with their Beloved Dead, specially those that pass suddenly. I guess it’s the ability to give closure to both parties. For the Spirits of the Dead need closure as well. They often feel like they have left their families in the lurch, with no exit plan. Often in such cases; particularly with spouses-the Living Spouse receives advice from their partner in Spirit on how to move on with their life. Loved ones on both side of the Veil (spiritual barrier) express how much they loved one another and sometimes talk about the ways the Spirit is trying to make personal contact.
When someone we loves dies without notice it is always a tragedy. The people closest to the Spirit in passing often feel like their lives have been turned upside down and they don’t even recognize themselves in their own story. For many it takes a long time to get back to a semblance of normal. Emotionally-sudden death often creates its own form of guilt & trauma. Guilt over the things we wish we had said/wish we hadn’t said & all the things we should have/could have done. The trauma comes in the form of fear as we move through life knowing without a doubt, that life can change completely and suddenly at any time.
It has been my experience as a Medium, that closure through Spirit Communication greatly helps in dealing with the emotions triggered by sudden Death. That being said, I highly recommend taking my Mum’s advice…don’t go to bed mad if you can help it, say I love you often & wear clean underwear. I hope you have enjoyed the read folks. Please feel free to share your thoughts and experiences on sudden loss & what you have done for closure in the comments, I would love to hear them.