Stories of Spirit…Turning Down the Volume [healing after death]

As a Medium, I meet a lot of people after they are dead, and in doing so I often get to experience the wisdom they have gleaned after crossing into the world of Spirit.  People/souls do not stop growing and learning when their body stops functioning.  Death is not only a place of rest, but a place of healing and growth.  In death we review the lessons we have learned in life, from the vantage point of the observer.  We not only see our actions played out for us to review, but are able to see how we effected the world around us.  We can shift perspective to bear witness to how those around us loved us, and why those who hurt us, did so.

The idea of spending the afterlife reviewing the events of this life, can be daunting to some people.  If our life is one of pain and struggle the last thing we would ask of Death, would be to watch our life over and over again.  But the universe is kind, and we are not sentenced to review the experience in it’s emotional fullness.

One of the gifts of Death, is that is that the volume level of our emotions is turned down significantly.  

Imagine your emotions could be adjusted, like the volume on a stereo.  One is so low, that you really need to be paying attention to feel at all.  While, ten is so loud that the only thing we can do is experience our emotions.  Most people go through life with their emotional volume set at about 4-5, allowing them to experience things through their emotions, while still focusing on other things.  Some however, have the volume set way above the comfort level; around 7-10, and are forced to go through life with their emotions taking front stage, every moment.   Unfortunately, the volume in which we experience emotions in life is not easily adjusted.

Traumatic events can jar the volume control of our emotions, leaving many of us to walk through life with a concert of emotions distracting us, and overwhelming us.

I hesitate before continuing my writing, wondering if my words could somehow make people see death as a cozy alternative to life.  That people who struggle with their own world; their living existence, may find the idea of their emotions being turned down, an inviting option.  In fact the idea that my words may be misinterpreted almost made me trash this blog article completely.  I am a firm believer that people do their best healing while still alive, and that we have come into this existence to experience and grow.  When we cut our life short, we are often required to experience similar events in our next life, so that our consciousness may expand.  

Death is a place of review.  With the volume turned down, we can experience things that may have escaped us in life.  We become aware of the why of situations.  If we had an abusive parent, we are able to see the situation from their perspective.  Witnessing their struggle, self-hatred, and the abuse that they experienced.  We get the back story on every moment that effected us in life.  With the emotions turned down, we can look at these moments with clarity.  The experience being more like watching a show on television, then living it out as our story.  This perspective often gives people a better understanding of themselves.  They know what they could have done differently, as well as the key moments that triggered damage in their psyche.  This adjusted view of ones life, is more noticeable when a soul has had a while in deaths domain.

Another interesting fact, that should be noted, is that coming in contact with a Medium turns the volume back up again temporarily.  The Medium makes the experience of communication, more real or life like, for the dead.  This is why it is a good idea to give the Spirit a bit of time for healing, if they have died traumatically or by their own actions.  A good Medium will use their guides to intervene, or stand between them and the dead, in these cases.  When I work with Spirits that have experienced trauma in death (from another or themselves), my doorman Adam is a necessity.  He often stands between me and the Spirit, they speak to him, and he passes the message onto me.  This is a simple way of keeping the volume level in tact, for Spirits who are still deeply in their healing process.

The time in between lives, is when our Spirit heals and recaps the lessons of our last life, as well as the lives we have experienced thus far.  In death we become all that we are.  Becoming whole; all that we are,  helps a soul to heal and become more.  For we can add the experiences of the life we just lived to the mix of that which we have already been.  In death we exist as our ‘higher self’, the self that is us with all of its parts.  Every life time lived adds to that which we are, our heartaches and sorrows are just as important as our achievements and loves.

The soul is a complex thing, one that is ever evolving.  We need to be patient with ourselves, and patient with those who suffer in ways that we cannot understand.  Recognizing that people can feel emotions at different degrees of volume, helps us to comprehend how the same situation can effect different people, in dissimilar ways, providing insight in regards to depression and anxiety.

How can we learn to dial down our emotional response while living?

This is a tricky one, and there is no one answer for everyone.  I am not a psychiatrist, and by no means am I suggesting you step out of the care of your counselor, if you have one.  I am simply trying to shed some light onto the subject of emotional volume, as shown to me by the Dead.

Mediation is helpful…  Learning how to center ourselves when the world around us is moving really fast, and our emotions are screaming at us is invaluable.  I prefer to use Sound in my meditation, often focusing on my own voice as I  ‘tone’.  Vocal Toning is the extension of vocal sounds, particularly focused on the sound of vowels, and harmonics.  It is pretty simple and requires no choir skills.  Vowel sounds are considered sacred in many cultures.  Prolonged vocal toning has a peaceful effect on both the energetic and physical body.  (For all you local folks, interested in learning Sound Mediation, I offer a weekly class on Tuesday nights at my studio in Lyndonville, VT).

Whether you feel drawn to sound healing/mediation, or simple breath exercises, mediation is something that works better with practice.  The more often we do it, the more easily we can slip into its gentle, peaceful embrace.

Mantras work...Mantras are simple statements, we repeat in order to create interpersonal change.  They work best if kept to 4-5 words.  When the stress of the world ways heavy on your brain, and your mind is spinning on its personal hamster wheel from hell, simply repeat your mantra 5 or 6 times.  Example…I am at peace with myself.  When you do, you will find your mind pauses, steps away from the hamster wheel for a moment.  The thoughts that haunt you will come back, but again go to your mantra, repeating it over and over again until your mind finds its quiet place.  The more often you handle your mind-fuck with the simple compassion of a mantra, the less often it will come around.

The biggest lesson I have learned from the Dead, is that life is worth living.  When we die, we miss the simple things of life…the taste of our favorite food, the smell of our favorite flowers, the color of the sky, the richness of textures we feel through touch, the embrace of our lovers and friends.  These are the things that come up, over and over again when I connect with the dead, even the ones who suffered in life.

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Stories of Spirit…the Sorrow of One [mourning alone]

As a Medium; I have encountered death in many, many ways.  My first brush with death occurred when I was 3 months old, and my father’s, mother passed.  This event, was something, that showed others in my family; particularly, Grammy Brown, that I was able to see/perceive Spirits.  Since that moment, death has been a constant companion of mine.  I have had many personal losses, and have stood witness/messenger, to countless numbers of others.  There is no ‘one-way’ to experience the loss of death, for it is a multi-faceted, and generally requires us to experience it’s power over and over again; sometimes through deep sadness, sometimes through rage, sometimes through an emptiness that would challenge the vastness of space.  One thing that remains constant when it comes to death is that we all mourn alone.

No matter how much we share love of someone with another, the feeling of loss created by death is a lonely thing.  It is something that demands privacy, taking up long hours, in our mind.  It is something that shows up when we are having a great time, reminding us that something is missing, often asking us “How can you be so happy, when your Beloved Dead is not here to join you?” It speaks loudest to us when we are feeling vulnerable, or doubting ourselves, telling us that we will never find happiness again, without our beloved.  The closer we were to the death, the harder and longer it sits with us.  When enough time has gone by, and others see that we should be done mourning, death requires us to hide our sorrow, “move-on” the outside world says, but death whispers quietly in our ears “stay, don’t forget how important they were to you”.

There is no easy answer here.  I cannot bestow words of wisdom upon you, that will take away your sorrow, like the brush of a magic wand.  But I can tell you that communication helps.  Not just Spirit Communication, although in truth communication with your Beloved Dead, is one of the most powerful healing tools I know of, as it gives us the proof that they are not truly gone, but simply existing in another realm.  But not everybody is open or has the ability to make connection with their dead, so that is why good old fashioned talking about it is helpful.  Friends, counselors, and support groups help us to make peace with the sorrow of our loss, even when the others we speak to cannot fully understand our pain.  The act of sharing it, helps us to move it from the hidden realms of our mind, into the light of day where it can be cared for.

This advice is particularly important for those who have experienced a deep loss, such as that of a lover, child, or parent.  When we loose the ones we hold most dear, their death will become a constant companion of ours.  It will attend us in our every day life, and go with us to special events.  It will come around heavily, laden with emotion on the anniversary dates of their loss, and their birthdays, and anniversaries.  It will show up, when a song comes on the radio, or a childhood toy reminds us of them, when the weather is just so, and when we wake slowly from a dream in which they have come to visit.  For those most heavily hit by the loss of a loved one, death will return again, and again, and again.

So what can we do in those overwhelming moments?  What can we do to ease our pain, and find peace?

First of all we must remember we are human, and innately flawed.  We need to be patient with ourselves, and practice the art of  ‘speaking vulnerably’, which simply means talking when you feel weak.  Not everyone can do this, in fact most people stop talking about their loss, thinking that others will perceive that they should be over it by now.  It is my belief that people are generally kind.  That if we tell them we are having a hard day, and that death is speaking very loudly to us today, that we are in a deep space of mourning, they will understand, and most often seek to give us support.  The problem is, that most of us do not do this when we are feeling vulnerable, instead we batten down the hatches and prepare to ride out the storm.  In doing so, we often act in ways that are not really pleasant to ourselves or others.  We may even find ourselves lashing out, again at ourselves and others, and when it is done, we feel like an asshole, but lack the means to explain our actions.

Secondly, I recommend setting up sacred space for our Beloved Dead.  A simple shelf can be turned into an altar or shrine, with just a few items and some attention.  Place a picture of your loved one, who has crossed over, on the shelf, as well as any mementos that remind you of them.  Light a candle, and sit with them for a bit.  Even if you do not sense them, know that they are beside you.  For as a Medium, I know that our loved ones in Spirit are reaching out, trying to help us heal…even when we perceive them as having moved on, there is a part of their essence that stays connected to the ones they love.

We all mourn alone, and some of us do that more truly then others…This is most true for people who pull themselves away from the world of the living, identifying their loss as the story of their life.  It is also true for those who have loved in secret, been the other woman/man, or who have had a relationship that was hidden from the real world.  The loss in these cases can be overwhelming, and again…my answer is talk about it.  Find a friend who understands, or a counselor/healer who gets you.  But do not suffer with your loss alone.

I hope you found this article helpful, please feel free to share it, as I believe it is a message that needs to be heard, again, and again, and again.

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Stories of Spirit…Love is Good Stuff [be the change you want to see in the world]

Brigalovefest16People often refer to me, as an optimist, and I suppose that is true.  That being said; I am not blinded to the plight, humanity is facing in this time of tremendous change.  To be an optimist, does mean we stick our head in the sand & wait for all the bad stuff to go away.  It means; we choose to embrace the goodness of life, to tune ones vibration into the beauty, kindness, and joy, that life has to offer.  Being an optimist is a choice, one that starts with a simple mindset…

Be the Change you want to see in the World. -Mahatma Gandhi

Seeing myself as co-creator, of my life and world; I live by the this motto.  I often say, that ‘God does not help the lazy‘.  This is not in reference to bumming around in our jammies, or wanting a simple life.  But more a way of saying; that we are responsible for our own happiness.  In life attitude is everything; for we all face hardships, each and every one of us.  And, yes it is true; some people have far more hardships then others.  But, that does not mean our struggles are insubstantial, because someone has it worst then we do.  How we choose to experience those hardships, is what makes us who we are; better or bitter.

Love-QuotesI chose LOVE, a long time ago.  I am not sure when, or if it even happened in this life time.  But, the truth of the matter is I chose to love the world around me, and the people in it; including myself.  That does not mean, I like everyone. What it means is I choose to be kind.  I choose to be compassionate, and as a general rule, I spread love around, as often as possible.  In doing so, the world loves me back.  For, genuine compassion and caring, is often responded to with….NEWS FLASH…compassion and caring.  That’s right folks, what we give to the world, returns back to us.

Love is not limited to the intimate relationships of partners, parents, children, & siblings.  It is something that should be shared with all, and often.  It cost nothing, not a single cent; to be kind.

I find myself talking about love today, as the old ‘Red Heart Holiday’, is just around the corner.  Valentines Day, in my opinion is a Hallmark Holiday.  It is a way for Greeting Card companies, Florist, and Chocolate makers; to get a bit of a boost to their income.  It is also a holiday, that makes many people feel like shit.  Simply, for the reason that they do not have a partner.  Hell, they may be perfectly happy with that decision 364 days of the year, but on Valentines Day; they are reminded that they are among the ‘partner-less’.  Which some how translates to unlovable.  But we must remember…love is limitless.

imageI propose that we start a revolution of LOVE.  That we collectively, choose Valentines Day, as a day to dedicate ourselves to LOVE.  Now, I am not asking you to picket the streets with banners and megaphones; declaring your love for the world (although, that would truly be an awesome sight).  Instead, I am asking you to make a pledge to yourself; to share kindness & compassion, with yourself and others.  It is amazing, how much a simple truthful compliment, can effect others.  If you see an old lady wearing a smashing hat…say something.  If you notice, the hard work your neighbor has put into their yard…say something.  Buy an extra can or two of soup, when your out grocery shopping and drop it by the local Food Bank.  Take 5 minutes out of your day, to talk to the lonely, old-guy; standing behind you at the post office. Look people in the eyes, look into their souls, and for a brief moment…share love.

While we are on the subject of sharing LOVE.  I would like to point out the most important, starting place LOVE….ourselves.  We must learn to love ourselves.

amazing youI believe the brain, is like a super computer.  And, like a computer…it can be effected by bad programming and viruses.  No child; new and fresh to this world, hates them self.  That is a fact!  The hate, and disapproval, we lavishly smear upon ourselves, was created by an outside force.  The voice of an un-approving parent, a harsh teacher, or mean spirited peers; first created the negative language we speak to ourselves.  Over the years, their voices fade, & our brain starts repeating the insults, in our own voice.  When we repetitively spew hate at ourselves, we begin to own it.

One of the most powerful truths, I hold…is that I love myself.  I truly do.  Perhaps that is the secret to being an optimist; self love.  Self love, can be learned.  But it takes patience and dedication (back to God/Goddess not helping the lazy).  Our dedication to love, needs to include ourselves.  We need to speak kindly to ourselves; acknowledge our strengths and show compassion for our weaknesses.

Here is my go-to, Self-Love Generator.

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Every day, spend 5 minutes looking at yourself in the mirror.  Eye contact is crucial, so this is not a scanning for blemishes, pinching our belly-fat, cursing our hair kind of exercise.  In fact, it is completely the opposite.

As you stand in front of the mirror, connect with yourself; through looking deeply into your eyes.

Now, say something nice about yourself.  I don’t care what it is, but it must be truthful.  “I am good with children”, “I have a great voice”,  “I am have beautiful eyes”, “I am a dedicated partner”.

Notice, that the statements were made in the affirmative, with a focus on eye contact.  This is crucial, as most damage/bad programming, come through statements that were made to us…declaring we were something.  Many times these negative statements, were also made with eye contact.  Our eyes are portals to our soul.  Powerful healing can take place, when we use these portals (eyes), for positive programming.  This exercise is meant to be done often; like daily…for weeks.  But remember, it only takes 5 minutes.  I will not lie to you, it is very hard to do.  I have recommended this exercise to many of my clients over the years; and they all come back telling me how hard it was to do.  In the beginning, you will most likely struggle, with kind things to say to yourself.  But after awhile, you will find the truth & recognize just how amazing you really are.

Well, there is my rant on love, optimism and change.  I hope you take the time this Valentines day, to start a Love Revolution, in your own life.  I also hope, that you find it in you to spread love, wherever you go.  Can you imagine how awesome the world would be; if we all chose to be compassionate, kind and loving.  I hope you enjoyed the read Folks.

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Stories of Spirit…Undying Love [losing your other half]

noel&saliA few years ago, my husband ended up in the ICU.  What was a relatively, minor problem, became pretty serious; after he was given inappropriate medication (while in the hospital).  We were lucky, and he is still here, among the living.  But during the episode; which was pretty sketchy, I had to look at the possibility of loosing him.  It was a real eye opener, showing me how much I depended on our relationship, as a keystone of my life.

As a Medium, I often meet with people who have lost their partners.  This kind of loss, is often so overwhelming; that people do not know where to start healing.  They feel a loss of direction, that permeates their being; for the story of their life has been spun around, sharing it with the one they love.  The silence, and vast emptiness, of loosing ones partner can be deafening; often making people feel as if they are drowning in their own sorrow.  For we miss the voice, the smell, and the energy, of our Beloved; in our homes & lives.   I have not personally, withstood this situation.  But I know it’s flavor, for I have felt it time and time again; through the experiences of the people I connect.  The losses are not just emotional; they are practical as well; for we no longer have a partner to share in the delegation of work within the home, the raising of children, and the paying of bills.  And, who wants to think about such things; when your heart has been torn out.  But, we must….

Many of my return clients, are people who have lost their spouses.  They come for one on one, Spirit Communication sessions, to visit with their partners.  What amazes me; is how much the Beloved Dead (partner who has crossed into Spirit), knows about the current events of their living spouse.  Often offering advice and guidance, before it is asked for.  It is an honor to hold space for such individuals, and a great joy to witness the depth of love shared between them.  It gives me faith, that our souls are connected, & that we do seek each other out beyond the veil.

When we have lost our Life Partner, we need time to adjust & heal.  But, we must also learn to continue living.  We need to understand, that our Beloved, is still there with us; even if we cannot see them, or feel them.  They are watching over us, trying in every way they can; to make contact, to let us know that they are still by our side.  They are encouraging us to move on with our lives; to continue being productive, caring members of society.  For, when we heal ourselves, they in turn can heal and become stronger Spirits.

I hope you enjoyed the read Folks, it’s a great big Universe out there…with many of mysteries to be unveiled.  We are so much more, then the body we inhabit.

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Stories of Spirit…Through the Looking Glass Revisited [mirrors, time travel, & visiting myself]

MirrorPeople are often curious about my childhood and how unusual it must have been growing up Psychic.  The interesting thing is to a child, life is what you know of it.  You don’t really spend much time, wondering if other people do the same things as you, until you are well into your school years.  For me it was not weird or unusual; to experience Psychic knowing, or feel the presence of a Spirit, as I grew up with a sister who was also Psychic, and a grandmother who presented it as perfectly normal.  I never thought on my life as strange, or deferentiated between the ordinary things in my life and the not so ordinary.  I believe that all children think deep thoughts, they just lack the vocabulary to express those thoughts to the adults around them.  In general I believe children are more open to Psychic phenomenon, unfortunately  their insights are often shut down by adults and peers who write them off as make believe.

When I was a child, my sister Sandy and I would sit in front of the mirror in our bedroom and talk to the people on the other side.  This was not a childhood game of make believe, but an actual occurance.  In fact sometimes we would even argue with the people who lived there.  I have memories of these conversations from as early as 4 years old and lasting until I was about 8 or 9.  As a child I never thought about who they were, I just know that they were familiar to me and I thought on them as friends.   I now know that I was talking to my future self, as well as spirit guides.

saliwitch2I came to the conclusion that I was having conversations with myself after a series of events that happened in my life.  The first happened when I was 4.  At the time we were living in a trailor.  From the top bunk of my bed, I could look across the living room into the kitchen, one night I saw a witch standing in the kitchen.  You are very likely to respond to that statement in a couple of ways…how did you know it was a witch & are you sure it wasn’t your childhood imagination?  The answer to both is I just knew.  I was not afraid of the Witch, as she simply stood in the kitchen watching me as I watched her.  I was however surprised that my parents didn’t see her, as my father was in the living room, and my mother was working in the kitchen.  A big part of why I knew she was a real experience is because the memory never left me.  Throughout my life I have thought of this experience more times then I can count.

The second experience that led me to understanding that I had been visiting myself happened about 10 years ago.  My sister Sandy and I were in her back yard;  I was communicating with a spirit for her when we both clearly heard my name being called from across the yard.  This stopped both of us still, as we agreed completely that the voice we heard calling my name was my own.  There was no one in the yard, the kids were all inside, and she had no near neighbors….we were completely alone, just us and the Spirits we were communing with.  After this second major experience I really started putting some thought into the fact that at some point in my life I must have learned to communicate with myself through time.  I learned this skill in my final year of my Druid training in October of 2010.

In the second to last weekend; of my 3 year course in Druidry, with the Green Mountain Druid Order, Ivan (my teacher) brought up the discussion of time travel.  Now this was not time travel in the get in your Delorian kind of style, but in the sense of our human spirit doing the traveling.  After he finished describing the exercise, he told us we could either do this journey at home, or in a group journey experience in which he would lead.  I got really excited and shared how I had often felt that I must learn to time travel and about my experiences earlier in life.  The rest of the group agreed that they too were interested in doing the exercise together. We lay down on blankets in the tepee, and began the journey work to meet with our selves. The goal was to engage in conversation with our future, and the past selves…as well as changing our consciousness to that of our future self, and past self in order to communicate with our present self as well…basically becoming all sides/angles of our being.

The first meeting was of my present with my future self. One of the most interesting things to me is that I always told myself “I love you”.   My future, past and present all greeted each other with love. My future self told me things that I would do in my life, and things I must work on. Then I changed my consciousness to being in my future self and having my present self tell me something….this I thought was odd, because my present self said “ you are going to be sick for about 20 minutes”…I started thinking about how my body felt and what that meant, but we were soon onto another conversation. This time our present self with our child self. My child self told me that I had indeed been the “Witch in the kitchen”, and then showed me something that rocked my world. My child self went and sat down in front of the bedroom mirror, and there on the other side of the mirror clear as day was ME, as I look now. I was overcome at this point realizing that I had been communicating with myself when I was a child.   As I was trying to wrap my mind around this my child self said “Why did you stop doing this?” It was made pretty clear to me that I needed to go back to doing mirror work.

walesWhen all the conversations were done we were guided to hold hands with ourselves, and decide if we wanted to say goodbye or to bring the other sides of our consciousness into our present. I decided to bring my child self and my elder self into my present. When we were called back to ordinary consciousness, Ivan asked if anyone needed rescue remedy (a bach flower essence to stabilize when your system is in shock), I said I did…took the essence and then lay on the ground. As I lay there unable to get off the ground, sobbing (something that happens to me when I have an energetic shift) feeling light headed and unstable…my words came back to me “You are going to be sick for about 20 minutes”.   It was weird getting use to the visual shift, as I feel like I was looking at things through the eyes of a child from time to time with that lust for life and zest.  I  had many profound experiences in my Druid training, but the thing I think it most clearly gave me was an understanding of my self. Through journey work I have often revisited, things that happened to me as a child so that I could understand what the experience actually was. My child’s mind could not wrap itself around the fact that I was talking to a future incarnation of itself.   As an adult talking to my child self I was able to recognize myself, giving clearity to the experience.  Life is an adventure that I am thankful to explore.  Hope you enjoyed the Read folks.

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STORIES OF SPIRIT…Dreaming of the Dead [spirit visitation through dreams]

Dreaming in the Elfgarden, Harfnarfjodur, Iceland

Dreaming in the Elfgarden, Harfnarfjodur, Iceland

One of the most common ways in which our Beloved Dead visit us, is through our dreams.  This is because we have no control over what our mind shows us while we are sleeping.  The truth is; the Spirits of our loved ones are often with us, trying to make contact.  But most of us have thick walls of doubt for them to get through; walls that do not exist in the dream world.  These walls, exist for most people; including myself.

I have always been visited by Spirits, but through my life the degree in which it happened has developed significantly.  In my youth, I knew when Spirits were present, often seeing/hearing/feeling them, but the actual ability to communicate without tools (Ouija boards/pendulums) was something that I did not have until I was 30 & experienced a major opening, that brought my walls down.  I refer to that opening as the November Incident, but that’s a tale for another day.

So, if I do a flash-back sequence to my youth here…we will see that Spirits often utilized my dreams as a way of contacting me…

Flashback...1998?

Flashback…1995

Dreams have always been a powerful thing for me.  I have been a lucid dreamer my whole life; which means I am conscious of the fact I am dreaming & often have the ability to take action, or change the outcome of my dream.  I have remembered many, many details of past lives from dreaming & most importantly for this read…I have been visited by the Beloved Dead, in my dreams.

When I was young and I received visitation from my Beloved Dead, at some point in the dream, I would realize they were dead.  This usually happened, by me noticing something odd about their physical appearance…like one of their eyes was black, or they were slightly off in their appearance.  The difference in their appearance, did not have anything to do with how they died; it was simply something that was just not right.  At that point, I would become Lucid (if I had not already been), and I would say “What are you doing here?  Aren’t you dead?”.  To which, they would generally reply “Yeah, but I am just going to hang out for awhile” or they would give me some personal message of support, or task they thought I should do.

Lucid Dream- A dream in which one is aware that they are dreaming.  Many of us have had the experience of waking from a dream and saying…’That was more then a dream.’.  Those dreams, the ones that stick to us, our often powerful messages.  Many of us, have also had the experience of being aware that we are dreaming…the dream is still going on, but it is more like we are watching a TV show in your mind.  The waking; conscious part of our mind, is watching the actions taking place in our dream.  Sometimes, it is more like a video game, and we are in the first person, but we are also a conscious spot behind the eyes of the experience.  These dreams are Lucid dreams.  For someone who has them on rare occasion, it is hard to manipulate anything in the dream.  We are simply there, conscious of the dream, & simultaneously unconsciously playing out the scenario, but with experience we can take action.  Many times, it is in our Lucid Dreams that we will run into a loved one who has died.  In the dream, we are not always aware that they are dead.  They may be talking to us, hanging out, visiting in some way; but we do not acknowledge that they cannot be there, that they no longer exist.  Most times, those visitations get written off as the mind dealing with sorrow.   But in reality, it truly is the Spirit of your loved one trying to make contact, trying to assure you that they are ok & are still connected to you.  I highly suggest that if you have had a dream where a loved one in Spirit shows up, that you write it down, instead of writing it off.  For many times; when I am passing messages at a Seance, that the Spirit mentions that they have been visiting the dreams of those they love.  We are just beginning to remember, how powerful and connected we all are.  Ancient cultures, took dreams much more seriously; they knew that a Spirit visitation in the Dream world was a powerful message.

I have been thinking a lot about dreams lately, and I ponder I will be writing more on the subject in the next week or so.  I hope you enjoyed the read Folks.

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Stories of Spirit…Everything in it’s Place [Heartfelt Holiday Tales]

salisnowAs a Medium, I get to experience a tremendous amount of Love, when communicating with Beloved Dead (friends, family, loved ones and ancestors).  I get to feel their emotions; through a deep form of Empathy that feels like melding with the feelings of the Spirit I connect with.  The feelings transmitted help me to better understand what they are trying to say to their living-loved ones & I often walk away  knowing what it is like to love guest attending my Seances.  I have experienced such devotion between couples; that their separation by Death does not dilute it’s depth.  I have stood witness to tales of love that the Hallmark channel would die for (pun intended…).  The story I tell today is just such a tale.

I was working a Family Seance in the Upper Valley of Vermont when a woman came through to speak to her husband.  She had died suddenly many years before (by many years I mean somewhere around 30 years)…this was their first opportunity to communicate since her passing.   The Wife (Spirit) was overjoyed with the opportunity to connect with her husband, and as she spoke it became apparent that he had not moved on…he still mourned her.  After her passing he had changed nothing in the house.  This is not an uncommon thing.  Often people have a hard time removing items that remind them of their Beloved Dead; feeling that they will forget or loose connection with those they love if they do.  This however, was a exceptional example of that devotion; for the Husband had truly not moved a thing….Her sweater still hung on the bedpost & her makeup was still on the bathroom counter.  All of her belongings had been dusted and replaced in their spots for years, and years, and years.  The Wife spoke to her Husband about the importance of healing & moving on with his life.  She wanted him to know that those things were not necessary for her to stay around, she would stay close because she loved him.

I do not know if he ever moved her belongings, I figure they are most likely just where she left them.  Love is the most important thing of all, I truly believe this…It is what we are all searching for.  Some of us are luckier then others and get to experience that all-empowering-love on a soul level.  Soul level love is not limited to our lovers/partners.  Soul level love can be experienced between parent & child, siblings & friends.  It is those glorious moments when 2 people really get one another.  The kindred spark that lies in Soul level relationships is one that crosses the borders of life and death, life time after lifetime.  I am a fortunate person; I have experienced Soul level relationships in my own life & had the pleasure of experiencing them through other peoples lives.

This holiday season, spend some connecting with the people you share Soul level relationships with.  Pick up the phone, grab a cup of coffee, have a family gathering.  Big of small, perfect setting or 20 minutes  in the school parking lot waiting to pick up the kids…in life & relationships it is often about making time.  Nothing fancy is needed.  I hope you enjoyed the read Folks.  I will be sharing Heartfelt Holiday Tales from now until the Winter Solstice, so stay tuned & share with those you think may like it.

 

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